How to Write Wedding Vows: A Gentle 30 Day Guide

The 30 Day Love Letter Journey: A Gentle Way to Begin Writing Your Wedding Vows

Writing your wedding vows should feel meaningful, honest and deeply personal.

But for so many couples, the moment they sit down to put their heart into words, everything suddenly feels overwhelming.

You adore your partner.

You know what they mean to you.

You feel it clearly.

But the moment you try to capture it, the words disappear or feel too big, too emotional, or too messy.

This is more common than you think.

It is not a lack of love.

It is not a lack of effort.

It is simply that writing from the heart can feel vulnerable and confusing.

This is exactly why I created The 30 Day Love Letter Journey!

A gentle, guided way to ease into vow writing without pressure, without overwhelm and without the fear of getting it wrong.

For thirty days, I send you:

one simple prompt

one sentence starter

one small insight

A tiny moment each day to help your words feel natural, honest and true.

Five minutes.

One soft pause.

Your heart, finding its voice

Why I Created The 30 Day Love Letter Journey

For more than seventeen years as a marriage celebrant and vow-writing guide, I’ve stood beside couples as they wrestle with their words.

I’ve seen:

• the overwhelm

• the emotion

• the “where do I even begin”

• the fear of saying too much or too little

• the frustration of wanting to sound like yourself

• the deep desire to honour your partner with something meaningful

I’ve also seen what happens when couples slow down, breathe and write one small line at a time.

Clarity arrives.

Honesty arrives.

Confidence arrives.

Writing vows does not need to be dramatic or overwhelming.

I promise, it can be soft, steady and beautifully intentional.

The 30 Day Love Letter Journey is a daily invitation, delivered straight to your inbox, to write from your heart in the simplest, gentlest way possible.

What you’ll build over our 30 days together

Across the month, you’ll create:

• a clearer connection to your emotions

• a growing collection of lines that sound like your own voice

• a writing rhythm that feels calm and grounded

• moments of reflection that deepen your relationship

• a sense of ease when expressing your love

• the foundations for your wedding vows

• a meaningful keepsake of this season in your lives

Five quiet minutes a day can change everything about the way you write your vows. I promise.

The Emotional Journey of the 30 Days

This journey follows a very intentional emotional rhythm:

Week 1 of The 30 Day Love Letter Journey is all about ease and trust.

Tiny truths. Small moments. Simple lines that help you feel safe opening up.

Week 2 of The 30 Day Love Letter Journey is all about memory and meaning.

You explore your beginnings, your story, and the moments that shaped your relationship.

Week 3 of The 30 Day Love Letter Journey is all about the present moment.

You notice the love that lives in the everyday. The way they soften your world. The feeling of being loved by them.

Week 4 of The 30 Day Love Letter Journey is all about the vow energy, baby!

You move gently into intention, hope and the quiet promises you are already living.

By the end of the thirty days, you have the exact emotional material meaningful vows are built from.

The reason this works for writing your wedding vows is because most people try to write their vows all at once.

They sit in front of a blank page, reach for everything they have ever felt, and wonder why it feels impossible.

Wedding vows are not built from pressure. They are built from truth gathered slowly.

• a moment you remember

• a softness you feel

• a shift you noticed

• a promise you already live

• a feeling you keep returning to

This Journey gives you thirty of these small but powerful pieces.

By the time you finish, you are not beginning from scratch. You already have the heart of your vows waiting to be shaped.

I would love to invite you to The 30 Day Love Letter Journey if:

• you feel deeply but struggle to express it

• you want your vows to sound like you

• you are overwhelmed by where to begin

• you love writing but freeze under pressure

• you have no idea what to say

• you want a calm, structured way to reflect

• you want your partner to hear your vows and think that sounds exactly like your heart

This journey will change the way you write your vows.

It will change how you see your love.

And it will give you a gentle place to begin, no matter how overwhelmed you feel.

Whether you join me inside or not, I would love to be the one to remind you that:

Your words matter.

Your love matters.

Your heart deserves to be heard.

And you absolutely can write meaningful vows.

Your wedding vows are the heart of your wedding ceremony. They are your voice, your truth, your future.

Whenever you’re ready to begin, I’m here.

👉 Join The 30 Day Love Letter Journey here.

I’d love to welcome you inside.

Cheers,

Kerri xx

Hot Tip from a Celebrant that is in love with personal vows:

Keep your vows secret from each other, it hits all the feels - I promise!

PS. if you've left your vows to the last minute and don't have 30 days, I see you, and I've got you. Check out The Epic Wedding Vow Writing Course here.